[Brandye]

I assume your g/f is about the same age. She should have a complete gyn exam and this MUST be discussed with the doctor.

Given the length of time and number of tries, this saounds like a classic vaginismus. Do a search. This can be overcome if she wants to and gets moving. Each "failure" makes the likelihood of subsequent failures higher. Too many women choose to "live with it" and end up with no sex lives.

I would recommend an appointment at her earliest opportunity and the two of you agree to oral satisfaction with no attempt at penetration until she talks with the doctor. I am biased but a woman gyn would be my preference. Women can identify with this problem in our own bodies. Male doctors can be great but will never have this experience. A GOOD doctor who has dealt with this - and most gyn's have.