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Originally Posted by abovethewaves
so all this talk about the g spot..
help... i want to share this with him and for myself, i'd love to feel like a complete woman.. instead of one whose parts are disfunctional
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Your post is a perfect example of what worries me about the disproportionate amount of attention given to the G-spot orgasm. It gives so many women yet ANOTHER reason to feel sexually inadequate, question their femininity, and sexually "dysfunctional" to boot!
Although the G-spot and vaginal penetration without simultaneous clitoral stimulation are two ways that a minority of orgasmic women report being able to reach orgasm, research and direct observation by sexologists have demonstrated (over and over and over again) that most perfectly normal women can reach orgasm only through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation.
So orgasm acheived through stimulation of the clitoris is the most normal, most functional, and most "womanly" way to reach orgasm. That idea just doesn't sit well with men (and women) who insist that a thrusting penis must be the best way for normal women to reach the best possible orgasm. I am deeply saddened and frustrated knowing that millions of women (and their sex partners) out there believe there must be something wrong with them when these women are perfectly normal physiologically and psychologically.
Freud did women (and all of us, I suppose) a major disservice by postulating that two kinds of orgasms exist, a vaginal orgasm and a clitoral orgasm. Furthermore, he believed that vaginal orgasms can only be achieved by mature psychologically healthy women, while immature women remain stuck in some early stage of psychosexual development and can only achieve clitoral orgasms. His words have been interpreted in various ways in our culture, but ultimately, there is no credible evidence to support this widely accepted theory, and there is lots of evidence that challenges the veracity of Freud's claim.
And what is this cultural obsession with G-spots when many guys are still having trouble mastering the basics? Most women report that G-spot exploration and stimulation is physically irritating. So why do people keep trying when the pleasure button is so obvious and the G-spot so elusive?
My theory (apologies to Siggy) is that men feel threatened by the fact that his penis is less capable of producing female orgasm than her clitoris. With phallic masculinity at stake, they are GOING to find that damn spot and MAKE her come from stimulation that at least APPROXIMATES phallic penetration.
(FYI: Around the world every year about 4 million little girls have their clitoris chopped off to make absolutely certain that the clitoris can never replace the role of the phallus - keywords FGM female genital mutilation infibulation clitoridectomy.)
Yes, I know that in our culture, most women enjoy consensual vaginal penetration enormously. And yes, I know that some couples just want to explore every possible facet of their sexuality, including the G-spot. But I don't believe that either of these facts accounts for the public's continued fascination with the sacred G-spot.