[BTDTWoman]

Whooops! I just reread my post and Ashley's post and realized that I was reflecting more on Engage!'s post than responding to Ashley's question. Maybe in your situation, Ashley, your boyfriend should be the one having control of the role of the third party. Also, since you are only 22 and have been with this guy since you were 15, chances are better that bringing in a third party ultimately could be destructive to your relationship. Neither of you have had the chance to "play the field," and adding a third party for sex could stoke that desire in both of you.