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Old 08-01-2007, 04:11 PM
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Originally Posted by uponhereyes View Post
someone asked if you need to come out if you're bisexual. The fact is you only need to come out about something if you're intending to pursue it. A gay person doesn't need to come out if they are never intending to be in a sexual relationship. Telling a straight sexual partner that you're bi is because either you want them to allow you to cheat with same sex partners or you want to have a three way, or I guess if you don't want to share a bed with his cousin at the ski resort. The fact is sexual orientation is sexual, it shouldn't effect any non-sex part of your life (it's just the bigots that like to do that)

Telling a straight partner is for many reasons not because you want a threesome or to cheat. It has to do with attraction, emotions, and lifestyle. Yes, before you engage in sex with anyone this is an important "fact" which you owe and explanation to a person for. My reasons? Much like & dislike DVDbear's. My first husband decided to spring it on me after we were married, it's not something a person just suppresses, it's so much more then you are insinuating, he did not give me an option of making an informed choice; furthermore, he was not satisfied in a relationship (sexually nor emotionally) with either sex for any period of time.
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