[michelle2004]

Originally Posted by goldrush1251

I now have a mental block about sex, I've had sex once with one guy with absolutely no pain (he was pretty small :\) but my new guy has a very wide girth. We've only had sex twice and the pain is just...immense.
Now every time I get close to having sex I tense up and I know its going to make it worse.
I've been thinking recently, and they always tell you to put a tampon in as far as it will go, yes? Tampons go in fine not a problem, but they just aren't very long, and you push them in until you feel it hurt at the top. But then I thought, well, most boys penis' are longer than the tampon and part of the string, so how are you supposed to get most of the boys penis in there when it hurts to put a tampon in anymore than it is designed to be?

Should I just stick it out until it stops hurting anymore? Tell me it'll stop hurting, because right now I'm failing to see sex as enjoyable. Which is a terrible thing. I love dry sex, which makes me think I will love sex, its just the pain at the moment which isn't helping.

You also have to remember that during foreplay before sex you body is preparing itself for sex, this is not the case with tampons. A lot of foreplay will really help you out, but some will taking it slow and getting your body used to it. Sex toys are a good idea.