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Originally Posted by Odysseus
Okay now, I just want to hear your opinion on my case...
1.) When I was fingering her I did it only with one finger. I tried inserting two fingers and managed to get them in but her vaginal opening felt so tight.. I asked her if I’m hurting her and she said she’d prefer one finger. I’m not sure if I was too fast putting two fingers in or something.
2.) Now, here’s what I’m afraid of: is my penis too big for her? My penis is about 6 inches in erection. Do you think her vaginal opening will get wide enough for my penis? Is there a change we could have fully satisfying sex life some day?
3.) Everything in our life together seems perfect now… I hope so much this one important thing won’t be a problem… If it seems bad, how could I make things better?
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Welcome to the SI101 site.
1.) One finger is good. Two are OK, although, as previously mentioned, she will have to work up to it. Here are two things she can do to help the process along:
First, consider that while just fooling around, you do not really need to insert a finger. Why? Well, because the outside around the entrance and just inside are richly endowed with very sensitive nerve endings that can contribute much to a woman's pleasure when touched and stroked.
Second, If she is being stretched then there are a couple of fixes.
One is for her to take a graduated dildo and work with it over time
in order to make the opening more pliable. She can substitute
items like a candle or carrot stick or English cucumber. How-
ever, if the hymen is intact, stretching in this way will probably
have to wait.
Another exercise I recommend is to stretch both the opening and the hymen (if present and intact) using a single finger at first, then graduating to two fingers either of the same hand or one from each.
These exercises are best accomplished while sitting in a bathtub
of warm water because the water will soften the tissue. Alternately,
you can do the exercises in a shower. Begin by tugging the opening
and holding pressure for several moments before moving on to the
next quadrant. Devote about twenty minutes once or twice a day
to the exercises. Over the course of several days to a week or so
you should then be able to insert two fingers. Continue to tug and
hold the pressure along each quadrant in turn.
For a girl or woman with little or no experience with fingering, it is probably not a bad idea to insert a finger slowly. Why? First, because if there is an intact hymen, bumping it can be uncomfortable. Second, proceeding slowly gives her time to adjust to being penetrated. Third, proceeding slowly with someone you are just establishing an intimate relationship with shows that you are concerned for her comfort and well being, not just in charging forward damn the torpedoes. Of course in the future, as long as she and you are well lubricated, slow, fast, or in between are all OK.
2.) Re: Size & Satisfaction-
This information should calm thy fears:
For Boys Only- A Matter of Size (Regarding your penis)
3.) Re: Everything else-
Please read the information listed in the following Index:
One Stop Shopping--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics
Much of the information listed in the Index has to do with understanding human physiology, and psychology, and from these, how to arouse each other bringing about great joy, pleasure, and satisfaction. The information is presented in short interesting posts--nothing long and boring. Both of you need to read the information.