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Originally Posted by dancingdoc2
I am puzzled and perplexed why there is a need, reason, or compulsion for a Gay or Bi- individual to let family and friends know what their sexual proclivity is. Heterosexual people do not make a public declaration. If others know, fine.
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If you're in a relationship with another man (or a woman with a woman) that is your life partner and would appreciate others considering this person as such I think it becomes a bit of a necessity, doesn't it? Sorry, I'm not content with leaving people with the assumption he's my "friend"; that is demeaning to our relationship, which is not just about what we do in the bedroom. Heterosexuality is considered "the norm" and people are presumed (most of the time) to be straight; declaring yourself as such would be pointless. When people meet me on a casual basis they assume I'm straight, since there's nothing that would clue them in otherwise. And if that's the extent of our contact I have no "compulsion" to declare my sexual orientation. If it's someone with whom I'm going to have a longer or close involvement it's important they know this since they will be laboring under a misconception that directly affects how they would perceive me, my relationship with my partner and many scenarios that come up in social situations.