hey im new-1st post.
this is a tough subject. fortunately, you can get by it with the thing every good relationship needs-communication. guys, you need to talk before you try this, at length. find out exactly how she feels about it.
personally, my girlfriend and i do it all the time. the point is not to degrade your girl (if it is for you, don't do it, becuase that's wrong). my opinion is that it's part of a subconscious desire in guys to "claim" your woman. this stems from way back in the caveman days, when guys would beat their women senseless and drag them to their tree. fortunately, we have evolved-somewhat
the desire to "mark your territory" will always be there. it's not something to be ashamed of; it's a part of your psyche and you have no control over it. what do you think you're doing when you put a wedding/engagement ring on her finger. you're telling all other guys "back off, she's mine."
facials can be a sticky issue (no pun intended). my girl had no problem with it, cuz when i go down on her she gets real wet and i get her juices all over my face and in my mouth, so she's all too happy to return the favor by swallowing my cum or taking a facial. here's my tips guys for first-time facials.
1. do it to yourself first. not hard to do. when you're ready to cum, flip backwards so your ankles are by your ears and your dicks only about 6 inches from your face. it's a lot easier than it sounds. I'm one of the least flexible people I know, and I did it no problem. if you're uncomfortable having it on you, how can you ask her to take it?
2. talk about it first. timing is crucial. if you just ask out of the blue, for instance while you're watching a baseball game, she'll say no and think you're weird. if you ask right before you're about to cum, she'll feel pressure to say yes, and that's not fair to her. my recommendation is that moment between foreplay ending and sex beginning, right before you go in.
3. when you're about to cum, pull out and ask her if she's ready. if she has second thoughts, you have an obligation and duty to respect that.
4. if she wants to go through with it, ask her to get on her knees in front of you. this may seem dominant, but remember the other best position for a facial is straddling her chest. in that position, she may feel restricted, which could add to the nervousness she is undoubtedly feeling if this is her first facial.
5. when you're about to cum, tell her "Oh my God, I'm cumming!" this will allow her to brace herself for it, which is important the first couple times. after you've done it a few times, this becomes optional. tell her to close her eyes, which she might not think to do the first few times.
6. when you cum, aim for her mouth and cheeks. whatever you do, DON'T cum anywhere near her eyes, even if they're closed. guys, ever opened your eyes in salt water? hurts, don't it? that's what it'll feel like to her, and you don't want to inflict that on the woman you love. as you become used to the process, you can aim for other spots (i cum on my girlfriends forehead sometimes now.
7. afterplay. it's important with all sex, but most of all with facials. remember, the most prominent reason girls don't want a facial (i think) is "he won't respect me if i do it". if you cum on her, then go downstairs for a beer and a late-night sitcom, you're going to confirm that fear. if that happens, best-case scenario is she never takes one again. worst-case is she leaves you. after i gave my girlfriend a facial for the first time, we took a shower together and then just cuddled for over an hour. remember to use the two phrases that are so important over and over: "thank you", and "i love you". let her know how much you appreciate what she just did for you.
OK, my first post is done. sorry its so long-wanted to make the first one good