Well I am new to this board ... and being a virgin could use the advice and wealth of knowledge here. I am 18 and have never really had a real girlfriend. I'm not a person that could be stereotyped as nerd/loser and (not to sound pretentious) I look good, have a nice body and am "blessed" with an ample sized penis (too bad I don't know what to do with it yet lol). I guess I could say I'm just shy. With that said I would like to try to contribute - I don't feel bad about being a virgin. I don't feel bad that I havn't really found a girl that I want to have sex with. If you are in the same boat as me, don't feel bad. If you are horny, masturbate! - I sure do often enough (every night once or twice). In fact, I am happy with myself. I get looks from alot of girls and people are often "shocked" that I don't have girls all over me or a girlfriend. Those people should mind their own business. There is nothing wrong with me, and there is nothing wrong with you. Be happy, and hold onto the thought that it will just happen when it happens, and that when it happens, it will be the right time for you.
Wed, 09/03/2003 - 02:26
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18 years old
First off, virginguy, sounds like you have your head on straight. Anyone tells you differently, tell them to get lost. You are the one who has to live with the consequences of your actions- they don't.
And yes, lying to get sex is bad. If you are lying, you aren't expecting this to be a relationship. If the other person is-then you are hurting someone.
Also if you are lying to get out of wearing a condom "because I'm a virgin", that's not only bad, it could be criminal.
oh i misread
no i dont think you should lie about you sexual past... period.
why would you?
is she only looking for a "pure" guy?
i guess the same thing could happen that i mentioned before, but just the opposite
first time you guys have sex and you are a pro? she'll know somethings up.
yes i think lying about it is bad.
first off, the first time you are w/ a girl she'll think you are experiened but then you start bumbling around not knowing what to do, she'll think whats up w/ that?
also, for most guys they dont last very long there first few times so if this happens she'll think this is a regular occurance w/ you.
she might think you are a bad lover overall if you build yourself up and lead her to believe this about you.
its better to be honest and upfront.
like the others said theres nothing wrong w/ being a virgin. i was till i was 22.
Being a virgin is not wrong, but is lying about being a virgin (ie. if you've had sex, but it would benefit you to say you never had) a very bad thing? curious what some of you think.
Well, sounds like you got it all figured out. Being a 18 year old virgin is not bad, really. And who knows, maybe one day love with kick you on a head and it will be nearly perfect. Stuff like that does happen. Best wishes
i didnt have sex until i was 18 man.. hang in there.. it will happen..
It doesn't really sound like you need any advice on anything..
i mean like if you are not a virgin, but tell a girl you are