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Another analogy concerning "experience" is in understanding that a circus clown is the best athlete there which is why s/he can do some of the faux pas in their act.

What no one has mentioned in this thread on the subject is in having a SAFE word. This is a word that is not used in normal conversation and when spoken then all activities STOP immediately without question--and not two seconds later. If you do not agree on a safe word, then do not do bondage.

Words like "no", "stop", "don't do that" "quit that", etc., are all fair in love and war including bondage, so do not use any of them as a safe word. Shucks! even if not into bondage, love making in general should have a safe word or even seemingly innocent activities like mild short-term tickling could get out of hand.

I agree that a couple ought not rush into this. Spend time developing mutual trust and learn how to make love in all of its vast variations, first. *

> So i was thinking. Light bondage without sex. Any suggestions what i can do? I was thinking of tying her down and teasing her a little (kissing her everywhere). Then blindfolding her. What do you think of this? Do girls actually like this?

I agree with Sera. There should be a payoff at the end--like an orgasm, otherwise these activities could be construed as torture no matter how innocent the intent.

Using a blindfold can add to the suspense; however, I'd know what her reacton would be before surprising her. You do not want her to freak out. On the other hand, you want to build suspense and have her wondering what will happen next. Teasing is OK as long as it leads somewhere positive. Teasing can be negative and you do not want that.

* It is important for each person in control to know his/her partner's responses to stimuli. For example, women often become frustrated and can sometimes loose a great deal of excitement if her partner puts a pause in the proceedings just prior to her achieving an orgasm. Do this more than once and she will not be a happy camper. So, what is good for the gander is not always good for the goose. A guy's ardor can be greatly increased if his partner pauses on the climb toward a climax, then starts again a few moments later. Rather than stopping her climb by pausing, consider modulating your stimulation so it does not stop, just relaxes a bit before intensifying a few seconds later. She should not loose any hard-fought ground this way. Understand that frustration can be maddening and neither of you want this.