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Originally Posted by madeye
So maybe lets branch this off to another debate. Should gay and straight people draw those lines...... if you have seen the movie chasing amy you know where im going with this.
Do you believe someone that is predominately straight can fall in love with a same sex partner and make it work..... and vise versa?
I guess i want to throw caution to the wind and discuss to what degree are we straight or gay.....? what do you think is the ratio that these labels are circumstantial to the person you fall in love with or based solely/simply on sexual preference and desire?
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Haven't seen CHASING AMY, but I know what you're referring to.
I think it's entirely possible to fall in love with anyone in a platonic sense. Maybe if the emotions are intense enough it could end up in physical love . . . . for awhile. But I don't think if you're really gay you're going to find much joy or motivation to continue having sex under those circumstances. Many gay men I know who were married for 10, 15 years or more loved their wives and still do. They had kids and kept the fascade of a straight relationship for years. But after a certain point sexual relations with their spouse became almost impossible. You can't "fool" your orientation (despite what certain Christian groups would like you to believe). You can fantasize that you're doing a sex act you find arousing while engaging in one you don't, but again it only works for so long.
Another movie reference that would address your question is BROKEBACK MOUNTAIN. The movie isn't perfect but I thought it did a very good job of showing the consequences of forcing yourself to be something you're not.