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Originally Posted by learning
A different way to look at the above (may be valid to some and invalid to others) is that if you are loosing your partner to another who is the same sex as you, you still feel as though you can compete!! I know this may be a childish approach but at the time it makes up part of what one deems as reasonable thought process. When your partner is leaving you/or considering leaving you to enter into a "same sex" relationship you can do nothing!! You do NOT have the necessary "equipment" to compete!
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I've heard that sentiment from women whose husbands have left them for another man. But some of them have expressed the opposite; they're relieved the relationship failed over something that was beyond their control, so it's not their fault. They couldn't provide what he was looking for. While that's true I'm not sure the problem is then the bi-sexuality however. More likely the partner IS actually gay and have come to terms with their sexuality. The men I've known from a married background swear they'll never go back to a straight relationship and were never satisfied with their previous life. I also know several guys who completely and totally love their wife and would never think of leaving her, but long for an occasional male sexual encounter . . . . they don't think of it as cheating, just "scratching a different itch". Their primary sexual outlet is still through the marriage. This seems more "bi-sexual" to me. I'm not defending it or saying it's fair to their spouse (unless she knows and doesn't mind) but it seems to fit the definition more.