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If they "cheat" or fall out of love with you does it really make a difference if it's for a straight or gay relationship?
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A different way to look at the above (may be valid to some and invalid to others) is that if you are loosing your partner to another who is the same sex as you, you still feel as though you can compete!! I know this may be a childish approach but at the time it makes up part of what one deems as reasonable thought process. When your partner is leaving you/or considering leaving you to enter into a "same sex" relationship you can do nothing!! You do NOT have the necessary "equipment" to compete!
I know this is looking at infidelity or the possibility of loosing a partner as physical competition and does not give due consideration to the mental and emotional support that may be at the forefront of the split......but some how it makes/made sense to me!
Many years ago, my wife considered leaving me to be with a woman (a good friend of hers whom she met up with after many years apart). She claimed that nothing sexual had occurred and the only physical contact they had had was hugging/carressing and a single kiss. Its just at the time I was devastated, I suppose my pride could also not take the possibility that she was leaving (she did not) me for a woman....again....something I could not compete with on a physical front.
As for my take on it now.....well, I do not believe it makes any difference what the sexual orientation of your partners sexual history is, as said, if you are now in a committed and loving relationship with trust at the forefront, it is that what counts.