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Originally Posted by Beans518
Ok. I have a friend who has a 6 yr. old son and he has a hard time at school because all of his peers call him names like faggot. He does have some efeminate (?) mannerisms Like one time my daughter was at her house and her son walks up to her and says " I love your scarf and boots, they're beautiful, can I wear them" and he puts them on. Things like that has her dander up about if her son is gay.She says stuff like she'll kill herself or his step-father wouldn't let him be gay.I keep trying to tell her that it's not a choice and she needs to prepare herself to be the loving and supporting parent that she is suppose to be, because being gay does not mean that he is doomed to live a hard life and if that doesn't start at home how will he ever be comfortable with hisself? Is there anything I can tell her to make her stop acting like it's the end of the world and help her help him discover who he is.
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I can't add too much to what DVD said. The only other resource for help I might suggest is a local Gay Helpline or Center. They have all the resources available for your area as well as trained staff to deal with such issues.
As for her attitude so far, neither she nor the step-father have a choice. If he's gay, he's gay. You are very right in repeatedly telling her (or them) that they need to deal with their issues or they could have one of the all too common gay teen suicides on their hands.
Came back to add... You might also emphasize that there is nothing wrong with being gay and there is nothing he could do as a straight man that he can't as a gay man (self-worth/happiness-wise). He can still have a wonderful life with a loving partner, good job, and even children if he desires.