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Originally Posted by Beans518
Ok. I have a friend who has a 6 yr. old son and he has a hard time at school because all of his peers call him names like faggot. He does have some efeminate (?) mannerisms Like one time my daughter was at her house and her son walks up to her and says " I love your scarf and boots, they're beautiful, can I wear them" and he puts them on. Things like that has her dander up about if her son is gay.She says stuff like she'll kill herself or his step-father wouldn't let him be gay.I keep trying to tell her that it's not a choice and she needs to prepare herself to be the loving and supporting parent that she is suppose to be, because being gay does not mean that he is doomed to live a hard life and if that doesn't start at home how will he ever be comfortable with hisself? Is there anything I can tell her to make her stop acting like it's the end of the world and help her help him discover who he is.
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If she's open to it there's lots of good support material out there she can access, like the book LOVING SOMEONE GAY or she could contact the local chapter of PFLAG and talk to other parents on how they adjusted. You're absolutely right . . . . the most important acceptance needs to come from the parents in the early years. If they approach it like their kid has a disease or something they can change they'll be setting him up for major psychological problems or worse later in life.