[Smuggler]

Wow, this is a long thread..........

Remember one thing
Sex only last for a short time, Love will last forever.
If you LOVE your spouse, then you need to try and work it out.

I think back to my grandparents. I know they hadn't had sex for years (he had prostate surg), and they loved each other until my grandmother passed away....Then he still loved her until he died a year later...

Now, back to the thread topic......

I think it is possible to have a long affair provided that it is hidden.
You would need to space the meetings 4 to 6 weeks apart in order to keep it hidden.
Any closer time frame then you would risk the chance of being caught or slipping up.

Do I think it is wrong for you to cheat on your spouse? Yeah, I do.
However I do understand that we all have needs and each of us have a different level of needs.
If you put these needs on a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being the HIGHEST and 1 being the lowest, then I can say my need is a 10, while my wife's need is a 1 or 2.
It didn't always be that low, in the beginning of our marriage, she was a 5 or 6. However after a couple years, a little wieght gain (both of us), 2 kids and LONG work hours her need went to the low end of the scale.