When it comes to a quest for knowledge and information regarding making out, wondering what to do with breasts seems to be third on the list according to my (unofficial) count. This essay will delve into these male and female erogenous zones and discuss in general how to stimulate and fondle them.
Caveats-
Words such as:
* Squeeze
* Grab
* Twist
* Pull
* Pinch
* Yank
...and what they connote should either not be used or implemented with an air of gentleness. My point being that we sometimes read a post in which some young stud wants to learn how to
grab a boob,
squeeze it, and then
twist and
pinch a nipple. A statement such as this has just gotta make a person cringe. Since we admire and revere these two areas of a woman's body, let's choose our action words and what they mean, carefully.
Breasts- Female:
Please begin your understanding of the how-to of breast play by reading the third essay:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS/ and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST in this series.
Next, please read the information contained in the
Pleasing Her section of the site's main page about
Her Breasts:
Breasts-101
By reading the above information you should now have an understanding of both the order of the steps and stages of making out as well as an understanding of how to approach a woman's breasts within this progression of events.
I like the idea of approaching my partner's breasts with reserve and so should you; however, after some familiarity and a maturity within the relationship, you can certainly proceed faster and even eliminate some of the steps in order to get your hands or lips on them sooner in the overall scheme of things. In doing so, this does not mean that you should circumvent or skip over the initial fondling, it does mean that you can expose them earlier when making out.
Breasts and nipples "turn on" and become reactive when a woman is highly aroused. Giving the area too much attention too early can be distracting and non-productive. Admire, touch, and gently caress them in passing during the early phase. Wait until she is very turned on before giving one or both your full attention.
You may also discover that one breast and/or nipple is more responsive than its mate. If so, feel free to place more emphasis on this breast and/or nipple. Results vary from individual to individual, so as with all things romantic, please take your cues from her reactions.
The underside of the breasts can be much more sensitive than the top and sides, so experiment and if this is the case with your partner, do not ignore this part of them.
When it comes time to fiddle with a nipple, be careful and be gentle until you know how she reacts to having them caressed. How you go about this is likely to change from day to day depending upon where she is in her cycle. You may learn later that she enjoys some more aggressive fondling. If so, then find out when this is appropriate and desired before just throwing caution to the wind.
The nipples (and areolas) can be rubbed with a dry finger; although, she will probably like it better if you use a moist or lubricated finger(s). Stroking can be done from back to front or around and around. Whatever works.
If you want to tug and tweak one, then do not pull and twist. There is a difference in the two approaches. The same goes for pinching.
Smaller breasts will sometimes lie flat against the chest wall. If this is the case with your partner, you can stimulate the inside of the nipple by positioning your palm(s), or better yet the heel of your hand, over the front of one or both breasts and rubbing the nipple against the ribcage. This stimulates deep seated nerves within the breast. CAUTION: DO NOT do this if she has implants or if her breasts do not lie relatively flat against her chest when lying on her back.
Here are some additional ideas:
* The nipples can be stimulated using a flat hand with fingers together. Alternately, your fingers can be slightly open and apart from one another. Move you hand across the front of a nipple in a washboard manner, letting the nipple rub against each finger and bounce in between two. Different sensations happen with each version of the washboard massage.
* Rolling a nipple to and fro between your fingers.
Oral stimulation involves kissing, licking, and, sucking; in addition, a woman may possibly enjoy having an erect nipple scraped with one or two teeth {an upper, lower, or one of each).
When sucking, be gentle until you determine that a stronger suction is welcomed. The same is true for nibbling!
If you have other ideas of what to try, then explore these possibilities and learn together what works and does not. Keep in mind that both sides of this can change throughout the month, so do not give up trying if some action works one time and not another or vice versa. It is important that the two of you communicate with each other about all this.
NOTE: Some women find that breast play works anytime along their arousal curve. Some women will stop their man as their climax approaches because to continue is too distracting to them. Likewise, learn whether or not breast play can continue right on through the triggering of a climax or is better if all caresses end sometime before.
Because it is also possible for her reaction to change during the month, my suggestion is to continue with the stimulation until she says or otherwise indicates that you must stop. (This is another instance of using "Implied Consent".)
Nipple Play- Male & Female:
Nipple stimulation for the majority of both genders seems to augment an orgasm and perhaps help to bring one on, rather than to have any direct connection with the orgasm itself.
Breasts- Male:
Here, also, the two of you should begin by reading the reference on making out, first.
Next, read the male equivalent paragraph to the second reference:
His Chest
Guys, like gals, find that their nipples become reactive once they have become very highly aroused. So, while you can fiddle with them early on, do not give them much attention until he is well on his way to a climax.
Guys, unlike gals, often go around bare-chested, so having his nipples exposed early on is not the big deal it is for women. Funny thing, though, having said that, turn about is also fair play. So, if he is wearing a shirt, why not tease and tantalize him by fingering his nipples and/or rubbing his pecs. through his shirt(s) before ever unbuttoning or removing it/them? **
Guys, like gals, often find that one nipple is more reactive than the other. If so, feel free to concentrate the majority of your caresses to this one.
The male nipples tend to be much less sensitive than the female's. Can either gender achieve an orgasm from just nipple play? It is possible, albeit extremely rare. What is more likely is that fingering a guy's nipple will send a bolt of electicity down his spine directly to his scrotum, causing shivers and an involuntary contraction of his PC muscle! If it happens it happens; if it doesn't, don't sweat it. To each our own. This happened to me as a young teen and never as an adult. What still happens once in a while to this day is that bolt of electrictity will go down my spine when the barber trims the nape of my neck! Go figure....
So, gals, what do you do with your guy's chest? Well, you can finger his pecs and his nipples. You can also palm them when he is reclining. When on top, just place your palms, or better yet the heel of your hand, over his nipples and rub them against his ribs in a rotating manner.
** Even though our nipples are less sensitive, I have found that for whatever reason, they can become more reactive if they are covered with a layer of material like a shirt or sheet. This done, use the edge of your fingernail to rub against the nipple. This will be a much stronger sensation than doing the same thing without the material. Again, go figure....
Use a wet finger without the material. Use a dry finger with the material.
How much of an erection you will get from a nipple just depends upon its size and how he is "wired". Some guys can have a fairly significant erection, relatively speaking; others have little to show for your effort. Regardless, their reactions seem to be the same.
If you are able to get a fairly good erection, then you have more to work with and might also be able to nibble on them, if he can tolerate it.
Feel free to take matters into your own hand or mouth--or to respond in kind to what he started. Learn which nipple is more reactive.
"Oral stimulation involves kissing, licking, and, sucking.
When sucking, be gentle until you determine that a stronger suction is welcomed. The same is true for nibbling!"
The Areola- Male & Female:
Please do not overlook this dark circle of nerves when caressing the nipples and the breast in general.
When aroused an areola can swell and sometimes sport goosebumps. Each can be very responsive to being fingered, licked, or, sucked.
Finally, for all our similarities, each of us is slightly different. Please take your cues from your partner and encourage him/her to provide verbal and/or non-verbal feedback for how they are responding to your caresses and for what s/he needs--now. As part of learning what works and does not work for each of you and when, explore and learn together. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. Your relationship is a partnership.