[Brandye]

I do not know where those numbers come from. Some women are anxious to resume at their six week check; others take a long time. Nine months of pregnancy takes its toll. Every woman experiences some anxiety the first time - no matter how many children she has had. If it hurts, that increases the anxiety next time and on and on.

The concern is the pain she is experiencing. The doctor who delivered and knows the details of the tear should examine her closely and should be able to do any repair that is necessary or make appropriate referral. Even without tearing, some few women have issues with the episiotomy. She should definitely check with her ob/gyn.