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Madeye:

As far as your annoyance issue; it's not that I don't bond as closely w/my straight male friends. What makes that particular relationship most difficult is my straight male friends girlfriends make it near impossible to maintain a close relationship b/c of jealousy. Last year for Valentine's day, my friend John (his boyfriend had to work) and my boyfriend was traveling; so we went out for a nice dinner together. Now if that was any of my straight male friends they would not have gone w/me. Their girlfriends would have not allowed it. In maintaining a strong relationship w/my straight male friends--I outlast the current girl but our friendship fades while they are involved. Whereas, with my gay male friends, after I meet their partner or new bf they incorporate me as a mutual friend in their relationship. If they split, I tend to stay friends w/both; my straight friends their ex-gf ends all contact w/me! The same is true w/my gay gf's...once I meet their new partner & get to know her there is no jealousy. I don't really understand it (why my straight friends have so much trouble--maybe they need to learn about relationships from the other's).

As far as crossing the line, I would never do this to either a straight or gay friend. I value these friendships so much, it would never be fair since they are long and very trusted friendships (20 years) and stuck w/me through so much. If I have a FWB, it's a mutually agreed to relationship not one where I pushed the friendship beyond what it was. It was a friendship where mutual attraction was really there and the question of to try a bit more was always debateable. My gay male friends are in relationhips which are strictly w/other men, although a few did have a long term relationship or marriage (w/female) prior to their current relationships but were not satisfied. So, that has never been a possibility. If I hit on them they would prob. die laughing at me!!!

Dynamics of relationships! It's crazy.