[dancingdoc2]

Her behavior is not uncommon among a few young and immature girls. Part of her response for needing time to thing is probably true. The rest of her actions tend to indicate a mixture of a lack of self confidence, control issues, jealosy, to name the most common. She is learning to understand, manage, and, balance these new emotions and this takes time and practice.

I have an old sex manual from the sixties that states a woman likes knowing where she stands and desires a man who leads. In this regard the relationship is not unlike a dog on a leash. The dog tugs at the leash and when it won't give, learns the boundary and learns to be content walking within the range of the leash. The metaphor is not unlike a couple's relationship in which the man guides it in cooperation with his partner and the woman learns to be comfortable and to have confidence and trust in his leadership and to feel secure within the bounds of the relaltionship. She seems to be testing your limits in order to learn where your boundaries are for her in this relationship so that she can feel secure in it.

I think you need to define the relationship and what is and is not acceptable and what you will do to guide and protect her in it. Once she knows what the boundaries are, she will back off and be very confident with you and your leadership and not be so testy. At least this is the way it is supposed to work as she searches for a protecter and gauges your ability and willingness to do so.