[bruins76]

Everyone's different but it's all about how aroused you are, cause if you are uncomfortable, your anal muscles will tighten & then it will hurt. You need to be 100% comfortable, make sure you are clean down there too, & apply a little bit of pressure, massage the anus if you will, use lub, lots of it if you want to insert anything AND if you have nails (ladies) make sure you cut them down all the way OR put cotton balls on them & then use gloves so that it's a soft insertion. I know if my man fingers me & has nails at all, it hurts/scratches so you don't want to do that to him either.

As far as plugs or dildos...I have yet to try that on my guy. My next "adventure" is to insert my fingers & massage his prostate, I guess it's suppose to do wonders. They "say" that if the man is on his back & you are inserting your fingers, make the "come here" motion w/ your finger as if to tickle him upwards. They say it makes a guy go crazy. I know that this morning when we had some BD/sex I touched his prostate from the outside a lot & boy oh boy was he hard in like a second, didn't take long.

There is a place on this site (sexinfo101.com) that explains a mans places for getting hot & so far they are on the money cause everytime I've tried them it's been successful. My next step is to have "him" become more adventerous.

He's always telling me "I'm old" or "I'm tired"...meanwhile I am hot & heavy for him ALL the time, especially when I am pregnant (which we are TTC)...lots of blood in that area when you're preggers. Any who... when my DH said "I grew old" as his reasons for only wanting sex every week or every other week I looked right at him and said "you're full of it! I know plenty of men (referring to others I've been w/, male friends & older men who post on this board) that want sex all the time & it's usually the gal that is pushing away"... It's all over TV too, they say men think about sex all the time, they want it all the time. Then they make jokes about it on sitcoms all the time on how much a man wants his wife to "make love" to him. Meanwhile my guy falls to sleep in like a second & RARELY to we have nighttime sex, that's like I can count on 1 hand how many time's that's happened.

During the day, rarely...and not cause of the kids, b/c "he's tired"...it sucks, really does. I "double click my mouse" a lot, watch lots of porn & try to take care of business b/c I am done "asking" cause I feel like am begging for sex at this point & it's not good for one's ego. On the other hand...like this morning he came a little on the quicker side & I said "if we did this more often you wouldn't have this problem"... now I don't think he should use me for sex daily (although I would have no objection to that) but at least a couple of times per week would be nice, not every 7-14 days crap, it sucks! I am surprised that I ever became pregnant since we do it so little.

Sorry, going off on another topic here. I guess what I am trying to say is that when you're comfy enough w/ a person (man/gal) doing it all, anal, what ever is great, if you do it the RIGHT way. I wouldn't recommend doing that sort of thing w/ someone you just started dating or didn't get the "okay" sign from the person to go that "route"... I wish I could have more anal sex w/ my man but to be frank, he's too big, we've tried many times & it hurts like hell & I end up bleeding, it's horrible. I know I am capable of having anal sex & enjoying it as I've done in the past w/ another partner & it was amazing, but again...now I am so freaking paranoid about him doing anal sex w/ me I think I tense up immediately in fear of the pain, I am probably making it worst than it needs to be.

Oh well.... happy anal play!