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I do not believe an enema is called for. Just go to the bathroom sometime beforehand. Also, bathe the area when expecting to play around there. Bathing just makes good sense anytime the two of you plan on becoming intimate so one takes care of the other.

Before any fingers, before any toys, please read up on what I have had to say on the "how-to" of it. There is a right and a wrong way to introduce objects. There is also a right way for stimulating the various nerves of the anus and sphinters. As for fingernails, well, trim the one doing the probing!

Before playing with commercial toy products, I recommend using a finger for awhile. If you want to introduce a toy, why not start with a carrot stick, candle stick, English cuccumber, etc.? Once you are accustomed to objects other than a finger, then if you still want to experiment with actual dildos, just visit an adult store in your area or on line and choose something of interest that is not hugh in size. There are all sorts of toys from Ben-Wa balls (vagina only) to beads to plugs, to penis shaped devices and vibrators in various forms. Whatever captures your interst should be fine. Whatever you purchase to insert, make certain that you insert a well lubricated finger first in order to precondition the sphincters to accept something going the wrong way. The toy should also be very well lubricated! Always use gentle pressure to insert an object. Never ever use force or shove or jab.