Hmm, there are a lot of points that bear further discussion.
> Megan: The 'lab work' isn't a problem as I tend to only try HJ's when I am ...erm... 'broken'.
Please define "broken".
> I am trying to take visual clues for non-verbal comunication as he isn't very discriptive when being pleasured
This is another good thing you are doing. Whenever we masturbate we benefit from an internal feedback that lets us modulate our movements or make tiny "midcourse" corrections. When we turn the task over to our partner, there is way to communicate what we are feeling internally. Unfortunately we cannot plug into our partner's spinal cord. Darn. So, what we do is to develop verbal and non-verbal signals. Verbal can be words or utterances that convey specific meanings. The same goes for non-verbal. These can be a squeeze of the hand or some other form of body english that the two of you work out to mean this or that.
Making love is a partnership. He needs to understand his responsibility in this and work with you on his own behalf.
> I always assumed that it was easy to hurt a penis.
I'm sure it is possible, although squeezing is not likely. If you rub a spot too hard and chafe the skin you will injure it in a minor way. Bumping the tip and causing back pressure will be uncomfortable. Other than these, just explore and have fun.
> the Rythme of hj's is still a mystery but a friend of my suggested using the tune 'ittsy bittsy spider' as a good cadence if you will.
"Velly interestingk". Who knows what will work; however, having said that, here is a hint:
> > Katie: It also makes my hand and arm really tired to give him a handjob because of how firmly he wants me to grip him.
Use a lube and little or no pressure during stroking.
>>> Lackadaisical: arm strength can be built up!
All of us have to build up the strength in muscles we use in new and different ways. I remember as a post pubescent teen learning the joys of masturbation that my wrist and arm would ache like heck in the beginning. The same sort of thing happened years later when I was learning to Ballroom dance and had to develop a "frame" to hold my dance partner. My upper arms and shoulders ached for quite awhile. As all of you new to stroking a penis will discover, things do get better and more comfortable with practice.
> > I could ever duplicate what he does for himself well enough to be able to get him off that way.
Maybe yes, maybe no, although there are many women whose "handiwork" do get their men to a climax. Don't give up.
What is important to know about stroking a penis is:
* Extreme pressure is generally not necessary, particularly if you locate a hotspot
* A smooth rhythm is important. In other words the transition at the ends of a stroke should be smooth, not abrupt and jerky.
>>> Lackadaisical: he just can't fake his reaction that well.
Yup, the end results are rather evident.
