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The learning and demonstrating is exactly what I recommend. That you are distracted is something that you will have to manage. One thought is to practice at a time when the two of you are not making love. Call it "lab work" for lack of a better idea.
When you do the lab work, don't make out, just cut to the chase--er penis if you will. Have him demonstrate how he masturbates, and then have him guide your hand with his over several of these sessions until you learn to mimic his unique and specific movements.
Each of us is responsible for your own orgasms. We do not give them away. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve their own. To do so, we must duplicate the movements that each of us has come to rely upon over time. If we are off the mark just a little, either the orgasm will not happen, or if it does, it won't be as expected.
Pressure is not always a necessity. If you are unable to squeeze the shaft hard enough to suit him, then take the opposite tact--liberally lubricate his penis and use very little if any pressure. Both tactics work wonders.
How hard is "hard"? Well, ask him. The nerves in the penis are responsive to pressure. You cannot squeeze too hard by hand, only pinching hurts.
In addition to learning how to mimic his movements, I suggest learning where his hot spots are. The number 1 hotspot is the Frenulum {Y-shape ridge of skin extending from the cleft to the top of the shaft). Rub this when he is at the brink and an orgasm will immediately follow. He probably has one or more other hotspots distributed around the Corona Rim. Ask him where these are and then rub them with a moist/lubricated finger, taking your cues for what what works from his reactions.
Although not considered "hotspots" per se, rubbing along the urethra and one or the other sides of the shaft will often quickly build his excitement and tension.
Continue to work together and plan these sessions when you are not in a randy mood. Doing so will help keep you from being distracted. He doesn't need the kissing and caressing to get it on, so this is a great way to practice. Once you get his movements down then use them when you are in the heat of the moment and all should work out. Good luck. Got questions?
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