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In addition to Brandye's concluding statement, I urge that you do some maturing with regard managing interpersonal relationships.
> I have been away from my girlfriend since a month ago.
In other words, and from her point of view, you two are no longer an "item"; therefore, she is free to date.
> I am not sure whether she did or not.
This is her business not yours. How much of it becomes your business depends upon how much she wants to tell you, not how much you attempt to learn by sleuthing or other devious methods.
> I've already have tried to get the truth out of her, but I've got nothing. I am not kind of a psycho but I really need to know the truth since this is the only way to get the trust back,
This is just wrong on so many levels. You definitely need to grow up and do some maturing. Trust is earned, not taken. Truth be told, you do not need to know anything more than she is willing to divulge. If the two of you do get back together then pick up the pieces and move no and do not drag the past along.
Your comments seem to indicate that you consider this person to be your property. A healthy relationship is a partnership in which we give to each other and thus receive as a result. We do not take from the other in order to get. There is a very big difference. My guess is that from your attitude she wouldn't want to return to the previous relationhip with you. My advise, take what you have learned from all these replies and move on. Find someone else and work on establishing a better relationship that is not demanding and built on mutual advantages. Male or female, we are in a relationship because we want to be, and this should be the only message any of us need. Our respective pasts can be shared or not and should the two of you get back together you would be wise to build upon a new foundation rather than to repair the cracks in the prevous one.
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