[Brandye]

Most young men are terrible at fingering. They, like you, have to learn.

AAll of us wondered what an orgasm was until we had one. There will be no further question. For several months I masturbated having little twinges that I thought were pretty neat until, I had one. You will likely find out the same way.

The best way for most women to find out is .... alone. Once you masturbated to orgasm, you know what you are looking ofr. Until you have experienced one, it is kind of a crap shoot with any man. Get a copy of Our Bodies, Our Selves and figure out what is going on "down there." Chick Chat has a thread on "Female Sexual Response." There are many sites (including this one) with masturbation techniques for women. I think in the modern world more women than not find success with a vibrator. I like my two middle fingers.