[Brandye]

Up to 20% of all women have this issue commonly; probably half of us experience it during different periods of our lives. It would be very difficult to reach the point of sexual tension that causes orgasm if you are not really interested, sexually. I am assuming that your "never orgasmed" refers to with him. If you have reached orgasm with other partners or by yourself, you know everything is working. That leaves you with perhaps being more in love with him in a isterly fashion rather than a lover fashion. Do you have other loves (infatuations, parnters) to compare this with or is he your first and only? What are your fantasies during masturbation?

He may be a great guy but really does not ring your chimes sexually. This does not make him a good or bad lover; it simply raises the question of whether or not the right chemistry is there. Are you more interested in his thrilling (and slightly dangerous) lifestyle than you are in him as a person or lavoer?

Most of us fake it once in a while. The problem with habitually faking it, is that he develops an expectation that you climax easily and will take no extra care in helping you. You put yourself in a box of not getting what you need but giving hte message that everything is going fine.

You need to talk this one out with a trusted girlfriend and figure out what he really means to you. And if you hang around, come clean with him and see if you cannot reach a better accommodation sexually.