[Brandye]

Well, look at the good side: one-quarter of all women never reach orgasm. The two of you need a better form of communication. I never reach orgasm from penile thrusting, alone, so I am very upfront about needing oral or digital stimulation to get over the top. Then, I am upfron about "doing him" and simply enjoying the intimacy on occasion.

Get a copy of Our Bodies, Our Selves, and get up to speed on how your body works. The two of you may enjoy the Joy of Sex (now back in print) for some ideas about how to stimulate one another.

How successful are you in masturbation? What kind of fantasies do you use? Is he aare that you masturbate (or not)?

Mostly, stop thinking of his giving you orgasms. They are your orgasms; take responsibility.