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You've probably all heard the adage that when a relationship is going well, sex is only 10% of it, although when there is trouble in a relationship, sex is 90% of the problem. The other saying that comes to mind is that "when Mama is unhappy, ain't nobody happy".
Seems to me that if you cannot get his interest in the morning when he is clean, relaxed, and possibly even exhibiting a morning erection (or even if not) then there is trouble in the relationship and he needs to be made aware of it. Have you actually tried to initiate sex in the morning by being the active partner and trying to seduce him and get things rolling, or did things just stop with the question/suggestion? If you have not adopted the active roll, I would certainly give it a try. He may stop you and if so I'd want to know "what now" if I were you. On the other hand, if he doesn't particularly stop you but doesn't get with the program soon after you begin then I believe either way there is trouble in the relationship that really needs to be examined in counseling.
As for taking the active roll in the morning, I would suggest beginning with a Quickie whether he has a morning erection or not. Starting here is the quickest surest way to begin turning him on. At the same time you can begin kissing him being aware that anything too erotic on the mouth may be tinged by "morning breath", so you might want to keep mouths closed and plant more romantic kisses elsewhere.
An alternative to getting things rolling is to wake him up (again, before the kids are up) by caressing him and fondling his genitals. Regardless of the approach, if a guy cannot respond or is unwilling to respond to a Quickie, then there is a definite problem that needs to be addressed and I would urge that the two of you seek counseling. This is especially true if he puts a stop to what you are doing and won't participate willingly. That said, do not stop your caressing and fondling until he actually puts a hault to the proceedings.
If you have a guy by the balls, kneeding the scrotum, and are fingering the glans of his penis with wet fingers or palm and he is "fighting"/resisting you then there are big problems of which sex is only the outward manifestation of. The way guys are wired makes it a priority to figure out how best to get laid and how best to get our gal into bed. That he is not is your wake up call that you two need help. The professional may wish to talk to each of you together as well as individually; if he refuses to go to counseling, then you go, regardless. Talk to more than one therapist and find one you are comfortable with before involving him.
Guys typically clam up and won't talk to their partners or a therapist so understand that you have a fragile male ego to contend with. A good therapist can get past this resistance and reticence and this is another reason for seeking help.
One last thing: Because he wants to bathe and get presentable before doing anything else, have you tried showering with him and bathing him? If not, use only soap and your hands. Wash everywhere saving his genitals for the very end and when you wash them, continue by transitioning to a Quickie and do not take no for an answer until he actually puts a stop to it. When he does, do not ask why, just get up, get out, and leave the room. You do not need to ask because he will either not tell the truth or offer any meaningful explanation. That he stops what you are trying to start is answer enough.
I hope this is of help.
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