[Brandye]

Get two books: Our Bodies Our Selves and the Joy of Sex

The first will give you a better understanding of how your body works. The second gives more ideas about sex play, alone or with another, than any other basic book out there. Your third investment may be a good vibrator. Forget the toy battery powered ones; get a good one.

Learning to masturbate is probably the biggest step a woman can take towards sexual satisfaction. Until we have that first orgasm, we really do not know what we are going towards. After the first, you know where you are going and begin to understand what is needed. Although I had played with myself from the time I had my first period, it was a year later that I reached orgasm - and that was an accident. Happy one, but accident.