Hi all. I just got married like 1 yr ago. And every thing is cool, i love my wife a lot, and we talk with each other and communicate, but even so, our sex life pretty much sucks...
Why?
First. She seems not to enjoy sex, i mean she realy try to enjoy it, but she just doesn't seem to enjoy penetration, she said to me that either she doesn't feel a thing or she feels like i'm going too deep an it hurts. We've been trying many, many positions, hours and hours of foreplay, and the only that works some very few times is a *weird and tiresome position where I'm the one not feeling a thing so after some time my erection goes down. *
Second. She does not like oral sex. Nor to receive or give. Nothing at all. I try to give her oral sex many times, and she is like if nothing is happening, and only once she gave me oral in the time we've been together.
Third. Since she does not seem to enjoy any kind of sex. We only have sex like 2 times a week (if i'm lucky), but it can go some times up to once every two weeks or once a month. An that is way to long for me. If it is up to me, we'll have sex two or 3 times a day. Well, at least once a day.
It is frustrating!!! Before we started going out i was in many relationships (never at the same time) and i had a very active sexual life. And I thought I knew how to please a woman, and I like to doit, i like to gave lots of foreplay, with candel light and stuff, and i made many of my previous sex partners scream with oral sex, and beg for more, and then have them to perform the same on me, some of them even gave me *great gift of swallowing up to the last drop of sperm. Then a great session of sex in many variations and positions, up to a great end of doggy style sex (my favorite, the one my wife hates more). Some times even anal sex. And all of this repeated at least 3 times a night. I remember some nights i made it until it hurts, until it could not get it up any more.
And then i got married and ... *
nothing ... I have even less sex then when i was single and only saw my gf a few days a week.
I'd realy love her, she is very nice and caring, and she realy turns me on (maybe that's why I want to have sex with her all the time). She has a realy hot body, but i mean realy hot, she is slim, tall, with great long legs, great butt and an even better pair of tits. She looks great in any way. Some times my friends tell me that i'm a really lucky man for having such a hot wife and i just think to myself: "If they knew ...".
Lately, I surprise myself often thinking on some one else, not any one in special, just some else, cut be any girl just passing by with a short skirt, a co-worker that is always making sex offers at me, ex-gf's, i even think of going with some prostitutes, any one!!! And then i feel guilty because i don't want to cheat on my wife. I love her, but i get depressed and she knows it.
She knows that we have a problem, we talked about it many times, i asked her often what is what she needs to get excited and horny, but she doesn't know. And i'm just getting tired of hours and hours of foreplay, sometimes i just want take her doggy style and have my way because i know that most of the time, thats what we end up doing, she just tell me to hurry up because she gets tired and whants to get some sleep. I don't want it that way, that's when I think i'll rather have some one else if it's going to be that way, and I get so sad. I know she loves me, because she is trying, she try many things with me
She gets sad also, one time she even told me that I can get some one else to have sex with, so I can be happy. And every time we have a fight she tells me that she is sure that some day i'm going to cheat on her because she knows that she doesn't satisfies me. For some reason also, we have not been able to get her to get pregnant. That just adds more to the problems we have.
So, do you guys have any idea of what can I do? I want to remain faithfull, so I plan not to be having sex with any one but my wife, but if things get worse i don't know what am I going to do. Maybe is my fault, for giving sex so much importance, is just that for me is that way, sex is one of the best ways to show some one that you love him/her, not the only just one of many, but a very good one.
Well, C ya *
