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I am kind of in the same boat, but my situation is opposite as, I am the woman lacking a sexually driven husband. However, I know in the situation I am in, being the woman, what I would love for my husband to do to me. First, women get turned on very differently, (at least I do) then guys. Maybe in order to get her to open up, you need to take a different approach. I don't know how you try to initiate sex, or how it comes up in your situation. But maybe taking it a little slower, and fueling the fire long before the bedroom would make her want you more. Subtle hints. I know personally, that if I feel sexy, that makes me want sex. Things, like coming up from behind her, and putting your arms around her, or giving her a kiss on her neck. Holding her hand while watching TV, or put your hand on her leg when you are sitting on the couch. Women respond more to affection, and romance more I think. At least I do. It turns me on big time, when something unexpected happens. Like when my husband does things that are similar to when we started dating. Simple romantic things. Love notes, or a spontaneous card. Surprise flowers. That makes me feel beautiful, loved and appreciated. In turn I want to show him how much I love him. Does your wife respond to simple gestures like that? Maybe she misses the spontenaity of your dating life?
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