[yetagainsorrows]

Tessie I've missed you since I have been gone, but have no fear I am back.

Amazing how as a mom I keep looking for that damn instruction book. *Haven't found it but I will keep looking. *This topic brought to the front of my mind a comment my ex made to me when our son (only child too) was born. *He said (as my son lay dying on a respriator) "A boy is good. *I mean boys don't get pregnant" and laughed. *Now I know some have heard others say this, but when it's durring a time when you are facing a possible death of your child, it can make you bitter. *My amazing son is only 4, so I can't pretend to know what to say and do to make him not want to have sex, or to better word it, wait for sex until he is more mature.

When I heard you ask your question, being the smart ass I am, the first comment that came to mind was "geez, if we mom's of son's keep our boys in line you should be fine". *I do know in life both the male and femal sexes desire that attention, that love and emotion.

You know your daughter. *We have mommy sonar. *You're a very smart woman and you know nothing you say and do will prevent her from the hurt of growing up. *I do hear your fear of not wanting your baby to hurt. *Know in your heart you have raised a good person. *ASK QUESTIONS. *Never be scared to hurt her by prying about WHO, WHERE, WHEN and a number to call. *Set guide lines and openly talk. *Don't be all sugar coated, as I am sure you know the joys of kids using parents too.

I guess that is all I can suggest, ASK QUESTIONS, the more the better and some times follow up on who what and where they are. *Know their friends and male friends. *Trust her enough but keep close eye. *You know your baby, be ready for if and when she does need you to kiss away the tears of pain from life.

And remember it's not always the reasoning of the girls wanting sex, as it is the boys pressing it. I keep telling my self that my son will be respectful to women in all areas. It's all about doing the best with your kid, but it's the other person's kid I worry about.