Well, i have heard this complaint, good lord, hundreds of times from friends and co-workers.
Here's usually the issue: If you have ALWAYS initiated sex (from the time you started dating thru to today) its tough to get your wife to understand the need to change. She probably thinks thats just way way its supposed to be.
When you say
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Quote[/b] ]I know I could just talk to her, but I know she doesn't always feel comfortable talking about sex.
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- you're condemming yourself to continued frustration.
If you want things to change, you need to initiate the change. You also need to explain to her right up front that nothing is "wrong" but that for hte past x-years, you've always initiated sex and love making love wiht her. (Make sure you call it making love, not having sex).
This is not going to be a 1-talk resolution. You can't expect her to change years of behaviour in just one chat. It needs to be reinforced. YOu need to let her know that YOU need to feel that she wants to make love with YOU sometimes. That you like it when she initiates lovemaking because it's just another way she can show how much she loves you.
If you sound like you're complaining, you're not going to get much accomplished. ...so don't sound like you're bitching!
Hope this helps.