[Brandye]

Thank you, Demon <hings>

When are the men going to get the picture. First, Stan, some personal experience. Some of the best sex I have had over a dew decades has not resulted directly in my having an orgasm. We women are blessed with the ability to enjoy sex (just having you in us) without the earth crashing. I have rarely (maybe a handful of time) had an orgasm as a result of penile thrusting. I need something more such as oral or digital stimulation. Secret: The longer one lingers on my breasts (especially the right nipple), the faster I am going to come. The first time a tongue brushed across my clitoral hood (not the clitoris), I went to the stars; that first experience was completely unanticipated and heavenly. The first time someone went down on me during my period (it was another woman), I knew I had found Nirvana.

OK, now the facts: One-quarter of all women never (or very rarely) experience orgasm from any source including masturbation. One-half of all women never (or very rarely) experience orgasm from penile thrusting (my group). About a quarter of us can masturbate to orgasm but it does not work with a partner. The earlier in life and the more regular we masturbate, the more satisfied we are with sex later in life. Practicing religious women tend to be more satisfied with their sex lives than we who are not religious.

Sex therapists tell us that we can all make it. So? It is our choice, our decision, our orgasm. We own it. Our vagina is for our satisfaction and if you are in it that is good for us. The fact that it is pleasant for you is a bonus.

You have your orgasm; let her find her satisfaction. And bravo - condoms always and add a vaginal spermicide. You will be glad some day.