Okay,hi I'm new here and I have a few questions.
I have sifted through all the links on
www.sexinfo101.com but there a few yet un-answered.
I also have a few concerns...so here they are:
1)I'm 19, have had sex before with only one person--my current b/f. Yet I have never orgasmed. I am working hard on that, doing all the tips I've heard and read, but still can not. *I heard a rumor===caffiene affects your ability to have an orgasm? Is that true? I drink alot of coffee and/or tea....
2)I have had an orgasm(s) before when masturbating....I think. Is it possible to OG w/o female ejaculation? if not, was it not truly an orgasm?
3)Okay,me and my b/f had had anal sex about 6-10 times now, and I just noticed that today after he was gone, I was bleeding. It's light and red, defiently not menstrual. Should I be worried? We've done anal before, using fingers,toys and his penis. and 'lubed up" every time. And this has never happened? I *can't *seem to get ahold of my ob/gyn and I'm getting really nervous....
4)It's not safe to use saliva as a lubricant anywhere,right? it will better spread disease?
5) I am uber-sensitive down there, and fingering is almost more than i can take--I have nearly blacked out before,that's how sensitive I am. *When my b/f performs cunnilingus on me,it's even worse (more sensitive). Could this sensitivity be a problem when I am trying to have an orgasm? And is there a way to...de-sensitize? I have a few toys (dildos and vibrators and so on ) that I use regularly along with my own ..hand but I'm not as sensitive to that touch as to the softer touch (yes, rough tough is OKAY! by me and doesn't bother me,sensitive-wise, but I get rubbed raw, which sucks). I've heard about "butterflies" (eh, is that the name?Something like that...) and so on, but I'm worried I'd be too sensitive for them and pass out? Is that possible?
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6)When I get rubbed raw (sorry,that may be almost way too much info !) is there a way to lessen the pain? And how soon is it usually safe to have sex afterwards, without fear of *diesease/infection?
Thank you so much for any help,
LIV T.