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I was wondering if anyone can help me out. *I've been married for several years, and sex with my wife has always been good, but I want to find ways to make it better. *
The problem I have is my wife has always been a bit shy when it comes to that department. *For example, in the roughly 6 years we have been together, I can count on one hand the amount of times she has instigated sex. *It seems, especially as of late, that unless I start it, it won't happen. * Don't get me wrong, once I start up, she gets into it also. *But not the way I'd hope. *
Unfortunatly for me, I have not had oral sex from her in years. *I know I could just talk to her, but I know she doesn't always feel comfortable talking about sex. *One time I was giving her a message, which eventually led to me fingering her. *I asked her to let me know what feels best for her, cause I really want to make her feel as good as she can, but she never gave me any responses. *
And I know she can be more involved. *The other night I wanted to really make her feel good. *She was very tight and irritated from work/family issues, so I lit a bunch of candles in the bedroom, turned on some soft music, and gave her a nice, long back rub. *Which led to a whole body rub, and led to me giving her oral sex. *From her response, she enjoyed it very much. *I actually got a thank you after. *Anyway, we had sex after that, and we broke out a postition or two we had not done in a little bit. *Doggie style and her on top (we've done her on top, but this time she was sitting up straight with her hands on my chest and really working it). *As before, she really enjoyed herself. *As did I .
I guess what I want is my wife to a bit more aggressive and to open up more. *I don't expect her to be crazy and I would never want her to do something she is not comfortable with. It just makes me feel that I am the one who needs to get her to be that way. *And I'm afraid that talking to her may either embarress her, or give her the idea that I am not happy with her. *Cause that is certainly not the case. *
Any advise or help would be greatly appreciated. *Sorry for the long post.
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