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First of all, communication is the key to any relationship. If you dont communicate well enough about this, how well are you going to communicate about other things when the time comes? Just a thought.
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I strongly agree with you, and that's why I want to fix this issue ASAP.
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Anyways, about your question...Have you possibly asked her what SPECIFICALLY she likes? Have you been talking to her about it and said, "What pleases you? How do you touch yourself? How would you like me to touch you?"
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There are generally 2 things I do:
Sometimes when we are actually physically making out, I whisper to her, asking how she likes what I am doing right then. Her answer is always some sort of, "duh, look at my soaked panties, what do you think?" kind of statement. Her tone is not condescending in any way, but that's what she says whenever I ask during the action. I find it hard to believe that I am always giving her exactly what she wants, especially considering that I am relatively inexperienced. (Also, I can't ask things like this while I give her oral for obvious reasons.
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If I ask her after we are finished, that's when she gives me the responses I outlined above. I have specifically asked her how she felt when I licked her labia, sucked her clit, etc, and she told me that although she enjoyed it, she really can't distinguish very clearly which feeling is which. This is frustrating for me because I have not yet been able to make her cum through oral and it feels like I am just fumbling around down there instead of doing it right.
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Also, can you judge by her reactions to your techniques what she likes more and what you should improve on? IE, does she moun louder when you stimulate her clitoris, or her g-spot?
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This is something I am working hard to perfect, and it has lead to some quite evil methods of teasing her. (insert evil laugh here)
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Do you stick to the same moves all of the time? Or do you switch it up?
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Hm, this is a good point. We don't see each other quite frequently because we have a long distance relationship, so that gives me some freedom to do the same things without it feeling repetitive. But I do agree that switching it up is a good practice in general.
Thanks for listening though and I will try to find better ways of encouraging her to share her feelings more often.