My gf and I have been together about 9 months now, and we have done various things though we have decided to save sex for later on. (Both virgins, btw.) We are extremely attracted to each other and can barely keep our clothes on when we're alone together, but one thing is bothering me:
It's very difficult to get feedback from her about which things she likes best. For example, I have asked her how she liked it when I touched or rubbed her here or there, or which of the oral techniques she liked best. She also never asks me for feedback about things she does to me.
She generally tells me that she was too 'swept away' to remember it clearly or just says that she liked it in general, or sometimes she just changes the subject and doesn't answer. And I think it would appear selfish for me to 'instruct' her or ask her to change the way she does things unless she specifically asks for feedback.
I do have a 'suspicion': She tells me she prefers to be very submissive and that she wants me to be very aggressive and dominant in the bedroom - she has actually asked me physically subdue her and tie her up! Maybe, to her, the idea of expressing her feelings and preferences about what I do to her is not very submissive?
I try to be very diligent in giving her what she wants and reading her body in the bedroom and I've already learned (through trial and error, and by watching her mastrubate) to get her off through fingering. But I don't think I will be able to do more advanced techniques without specific feedback, so this is very frustrating for me!
Is there any way I can get her to give me some better answers?