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Do NOT play the "emotionallly unavailable" game. In my experience, most women want to be pursued and won, not ignored. If you really love this girl, and it sounds like you do, you must pursue her in a very available fashion. If you don't, you risk her thinking you've moved on. That's ok if you aren't that deep into her, but you did say "Love." If you play games and it doesn't work, you'll second-guess your decision for a very long time.
Your argument for getting back with her was mostly logical reasoning. That's not going to work too often. Remember, she is ruled by emotion a lot more than you are. You don't need to convince her that this match makes sense. You just need to convince her that you are what she wants.
The trick is to pursue her without seeming too needy or unstable. I don't think that means playing games. My advice is to keep it simple in the beginning. Small, thoughtful gestures should be where you start. Eleven years of marriage have taught me that sometimes you get further by picking up a trinket for a dollar that you know she'd like than a fancy dinner or expensive gifts or shouting out your undying love from a rooftop. Sure, they want all that other stuff, too, but the small things show them that they have your full attention and are more likely to stir the emotional response you are seeking. You get rewarded most for remembering things that they like or want that they may have mentioned only once.
A woman wants to know that you're thinking about her when she's not there and paying attention to what she says when you are together. When she becomes aware that you do, she'll make her choice to either give you another shot, or drop the F-Bomb on you. At the very least you'll know you gave it your best effort.
Good luck.
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