[Rawbob]

Well.....your second post, combined with your 1st post sheds a bit more light on the subject - not so much as to what HE was saying, but how YOU are processing the information.

1) You don't have a job, and are basically a surrogate stay-at-home mom to his kids, you keep house, and are there when he comes home, and you have a good sex life. So, you have A LOT of time to think about this and really mabye even OVER think it.

I challenge anyone who talks on the internet (to ex's or strangers) that we all are guilty of saying things that we are thinking or that they want to hear that we would probably NEVER really act on! I know i have.

Now, the fact that he dosn't want to talk about it dosn't mean he's forgotten - i'm sure he hasn't and it sounds like u arent letting him forget either!

Instead of being confrontational, if i were you i'd focus more on being more open in discussing what you both can do to keep your relationship happy and healthy - not argue over a past love.

It sounds like he's regretting not only u reading the letter, but that he knows how it would hurt you if he ever DID break up - and he knows what it's like to be cheated on. Perhaps he's learned his lesson and is ready to work on his relationship with you and not just reacto to an irrational moment of online banter.

As far as her being his exgirlfriend, i think he now knows that he can't just pretend like you don't KNOW who she is. I'd be surprised if he invited her over again or really chatted online with her again - that does NOT mean he's not callign her from work or emailing from the office, but ya know what, unless you have CAUGHT him cheating you can't accuse him! So, go gently down that road!

Take it a day at a time, focuse on YOU 2, and not on Him and his ex!