[demonbuttercup]

Yea totally discuss it w/ him. He probably thinks you just rather not be bothered w/ it or something. He shouldn't be w/holding oral from you anyways, but thats besides the point.

I would do like Lilly says and just be honest. Say you had a real bad experience with your ex and are trying to overcome it. Just take it slow and don't go for a full BJ first try. Baby steps!

I was hesitant to give my b/f a BJ at first b/c I was a virgin before that and a virgin at BJs. He totally understood my nervousness about not being good, or hurting him, etc. He was patient w/ me and just encouraged me when I was able to do a little at a time. I eventually was able to do more and more... so thats just how you'll have to approach it.
Good Luck!