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Quote[/b] (cowgirl @ April 12 2005,18:39)]*How does a person get over their, not really a fear but something like it, of giving a bj. *I was in a bad relationship once and was forced to give them by him. *I would like to please my current boyfriend with a blowjob, but I am not sure how to get over my bad past * any advice *
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I can't add much to Lilly's great suggestions.
But, having been in your position at one point in my life, this is how I got over it:
My issue was the forcing... As long as I was not forced, I enjoyed it; but any sense of forcing ended any pleasure or desire.
It was a control issue for me created from a bad experience as well; so as long as I have control of it, then it is easy and extremely enjoyable because I am the one giving it.
It is also a matter of trust. The more I trust, the easier it is for me to enjoy it; however, I still, to this day, am sometimes uncomfortable to have my head touched from behind to push my head deeper. If it's pulled with the hands on the side of my head that is different, but pushed from the back of my head really is troublesome for me. I just remind him not to push. Everything is ok because we are wanting to please each other.