As far as Im concerned a pelvic should NEVER hurt... There si no reason for it anyway
I have had both male and female ob/gyn's and top me Ive found no gentleness difference and my FAVORITE ob was a male. I started my period VERY early.. right before my 9th birthday and had to get a pelvic then cause my mom was afraid there was something wrong.
As for being shy.. dont. Easy to say I lknow.. but its something women have to do for their lifetime.. so its best to just relax and get over the anxiety. ANd as a dunny side note.. I was shy when I had my first baby.. By the second one I coul;dnt have cared less if the Doc invited a marching band in to help deliver her... you WILL get used to it and see that your "private parts" are just like all your other parts!
