This is a bit of a strange topic to be posting, but I guess what I'm doing is more research than anything else. I'm getting a lot of stick about my 'relationship' with a guy, and while I don't usually fly with majority opinion at the expense of my own, I'm curious as to what people think.
I met this guy in my first term at university, and we've known each other now for about 6 months. We're mates, in that we hang around with the same people, we socialise together quite a bit, we see each other in lectures, etc. About a month after I met him we met in the union after lectures, spent the afternoon in the city, had a few drinks, and ended up having sex. For a while afterwards, nothing changed - we remained friends, we joked about what happened, but since we both had had partners since, nothing more happened till after the new year, when we were talking online one evening and I mentioned I was horny and fed up, and he offered to pick me up and take me to his place. I agreed, and spent the night with him again.
Since then, we've had sex occasionally, without either of us wanting any kind of deeper relationship. It's been intermittent, as we've both been on placement in different parts of the country, and we've been involved with other people to varying degrees. I have never slept with him while I've been with another guy, but I know he has other female friends who he sleeps with, and this doesnt bother me. Whether or not it bothers the other girls... it sounds heartless, but I can only assume they know what this guy is like, and know what they're letting themselves in for. Also, since I don't know the other girls, there's not a lot I could do about it, even if I had wanted to. Half the time we treat each other like shit, we have rows and make it up 5 minutes later and we take the p*ss out of each other constantly, but I know we do care about each other as friends - while he's arrogant and conceited and tactless, I also trust him completely [not in the fidelity sense, but I don't care about that] not to hurt me or lie to me, and he has a great sense of humour. Plus he's fantastic in bed, although I'd never dream of telling him that! My best friend thinks I'm wrong to sleep with him, she says he's using me, but I don't see it that way as technically I'm using him too, and I'm not hurting anyone.
So I guess what my question is, is whether anyone out there thinks I'm wrong to sleep with this guy - is he using me or not? I have no expectations of a lasting relationship with him - the personality differences are way too volatile for that - and he knows that and feels the same. Any opinions welcome, this is purely for the purposes of research and I don't mind being slammed!
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