[Rawbob]

Well....now the cat's out of the bag!

Why didn't you just say: "I'm very frustarted with my boyfriend. We have great sex, but because he cums so quickly, i don't get to orgasm....so, when i see him or find out he masturbated that day or is mastrubating, i get frustrated because i'd rather have him make love to me (and try to have an orgasm) then to just jack off."

It sounds like you are a bit envious of his ablity to achieve orgasm both by mastrubation AND during sex with you...but you, for some self-centered reason, have STOPPED masturbating = the only form of achieving orgasm you have at your disposal.

So, my advice - have a mutual masturbation session. Let him watch you masturbate so he can see HOW you pleasure yourself to orgasm. Trust me, there is NO BOOK, NO PILL no magic want that makes someone a good lover - it takes communication.

SO, take this "frustration" and turn it into a way to deepen your love, affection and sexual technique - you watch him mastrubate and he'll watch you. I GUARANTEE if you can just watch each otehr you'll learn VOLUMES about what feels good.

NO ONE is going to say that masturbation feels any where NEAR as good as making love wiht your spouse/lover/significant other - so, don't elevate mastrubation as a form of lovemaking.