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I confess I got "lost" several times reading the history...
I'm left with two impressions:
1. This is a "way out of balance" relationship in which he does for her (including nurse-mate for a week) and she gets uncomfortable with the relationship when she doesn't need him. IMHO, too much of this story has a "look what I did for her" theme. Nothing wrong with doing, but a healthy relationship puts the members on more equal footing.
2. It's not clear to me what the "issue" is... it appears to be something about "commitment." Sometimes relationships get spoiled in the early stages because one of the involved (or even both) get too busy trying to "define" things.
There are lots of possibile theories... including the fact that she decides "no relationship" when she no longer needs his services... I'll bet the answer lies somewhere in getting the relationship in balance. Instead of chasing her and taking responsbility for her, try "needing" and "wanting" her and see what happens.
Sometimes people wanting to be "single" are really saying that they want independence and a degree of control over what they do... if you can allow that and still maintain a relationship it may bode well for the future.
Sometimes it's simply a case of trying too hard.
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