[Rawbob]

Ok.....big learning experience!

You need to being incorporating "dirty talk" in your sex!

You need to talk to her like the black guys did sometimes!

ALSO, you MUST insist that there be a level of safty for any play.

It's damn near homocide to allow her to go to a hotel room, and let 5-8 unknown black guys show up and f*** her!

Even if you'er there, that many guys can pretty much TAKE what they want - and when you lose control of a fantasy ..people can get hurt. YOU AND HER!

What if they decide they don't want to use condoms? WHat are you and she gonna do? Threaten to call the police? With an ad in the paper or internet asking for a gang bang?

No, you need to spash her face with water, and wake her ass up! Yes, if she wants to live out that fantasy, she can, but with clear rules: Pre-screening, no-std's, CONDOMS, "stop" word (a word she can use anytime and they have to agree to stop. A photocopy of their drivers liscence or ID. ANd meet them all at a place before going to bed.

As far as your insecurities, guesss what buddy....the horse is out of the barn. You really can't say STOP now unless u both want to stop everything! You can only manage it!