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This immediately brought to mind a couple of cliches...
"Be careful what you wish for..." and "What's grain for the gander is grain for the goose."
Anytime couples become involved in adding extra people to their relationship, they need to be VERY secure with each other first. *There should be a very high level of trust and definite ground rules.
It sounds like you only thought how you felt about this situation, as in... "I get to have sex with another woman." *You didn't consider that to mean that you were a sex addict. *Now, your wife has interests and fantasies... and you feel insecure. *
You need to sit down and talk this out with her. *Make sure you both understand the limits and rules (make sure you talk about safe sex, as well). *Let her know your feelings and listen to her's. *Otherwise, this could really mess up your relationship.
Good luck and take care.
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