[WallyLlama]

Let's not set the women's movement back too many years, shall we?

A woman has the right to show as much skin as she wants. It does not mean she's easy or slutty.

A woman has the right to say "no" and she has the right to say "yes." If she says "yes" that doesn't make her a "bad girl" and it certainly doesn't remove her the dating scene or make her any less datable among thinking men.

It's possible to be both f**kable and datable at the same time.

I'm not going to defend this guy, but let's acknowledge there are at least 43 possible reasons he hasn't called. The fact that he didn't get laid may be on the list, but it's only a possibility.

If you dislike the games, don't simply change the game and the kind of clothes you wear on dates, and things like whether or not you "make out" on the first date.

Be yourself. Be a woman who has confidence, a woman who makes her own decisions, a woman who enjoys sex when she choses to, a woman who doesn't allow herself or anyone else to beat her up for decisions she's made in the past.

Call the guy, ask him what happened. Or don't.

But don't change your wardrobe or your person. It might take time, but you will run into someone who appreciates your total person. I read your original post and hear your anger, but making the leap from a date that didn't work to feeling shitty about yourself (with a fair amount of encouragement, it seems) is just plain wrong.

(Well, okay, I'm assuming you didn't end the date by telling him you did "go all the way" with a bunch of guys before him but he wasn't making the list. That would be possible reason #44 for him not calling, I suppose.) You see, my dear, the only way the number of guys you've slept with is a factor in your datability is when you make it one.

Stop beating yourself up and don't listen to those who are quick to agree with you. You're better than that.